I was thinking I had written it here somewhere but apparently it was facebook or a forum. The good news about the longer wait (as frustrating as it is from this end) is that it is happening for all the right reasons.
SWS has made improvements in encouraging single mothers, so there are fewer relinquishments. Also they have seen an increase in domestic adoption so more children are staying in their own culture. These are wonderful things! I rejoice for these changes. I'm especially thrilled with children being raised by their mothers, I have started praying for these single Moms because being a single Mom is TOUGH. I haven't actually been one but my DH has spent a couple of years in Iraq, and that was close enough for me to have some major sympathy! And if being a single Mom in the US is tough, then a single Mom in Korea is a bit more, because it's more accepted in the US (even though it's not perfect here, it's still better than Korea). So I am praying for them
It's tough to sit here and struggle with feeling happy for all of that, but sad that it's going to take longer for us. Sad to see our children get older and the gap between our children grow. I have started looking at Rainbow Kids even more but as of right now we're waiting on the Lord (though thinking of increasing the number of medical needs we're open to, so I guess it's a bit of both).
Just thought I'd share the joy in this wait. I am truly thrilled to be working with a Korean agency that is trying hard to help single Moms and working to change the view of adoption in Korea. I know it's in God's hands when He brings the little one He wants in our family, home.
In addition to the good reasons for your wait being slowed, I'm happy to hear that you're perusing Rainbow Kids more! Both our girls were RK kids, and the process is fast. Children with special needs are, of course, a little more work, but just as lovable. (If not more!) If you ever have any questions about special needs, let me know - we've done a ton of research on the subject! :)
ReplyDeleteI second the RK! I just love it when I see the "matched" beside them. It's so hard to sit and wait through the adoption process. Especially when it means longer for you. But you turned the situation and made it a blessing :) Praying for you!
ReplyDeletethanks for clarifying the reason! I am rejoicing for the families that are able to remain intact. Keep me posted on the RK stalking!
ReplyDeletethere are SO many mixed emotions throughout adoption... still praying for you guys!
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I know what you mean about mixed feelings. I often struggle with the ideas of my joy being a signal of failure for the child not being placed in her or his own culture. It is hard! You have great attitude about it though. That has to help. :)
ReplyDeleteWe felt the same way about the referral wait. Adoption is certainly full of ups and downs! Congratulations on hitting the 4 month mark!! :)
ReplyDeleteyou're right, these are great reasons, but it's hard to separate it from the pain and sadness you feel for your extended wait!
ReplyDeletepraying for you for patience and wisdom and clarity!
Every AP can relate to the personal frustration, impatience and sadness that goes along with the wait - its hard. Its wonderful that you are able to see the positive of the situation, even though it negatively impacts your timeline.
ReplyDeleteI have to plug for Rainbow Kids as well! We just got matched this week to our precious baby boy from RK!!!!
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