.....for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the PHONE to RING (ring phone ring!!!)
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.
No!
That's not for you!
Apologies to Dr. Seuss for using his work and tweaking it slightly.
Obviously adoption is filled with waiting. You'll notice the italicized parts and of course my own commentary above. Steps that you wait for during the adoption process. We're waiting for the phone to ring (and the agency to be on the other end with a referral). We know that we're likely to be waiting a few more months. The important part is not to live the wait, but to live while we wait.
This is something I've been contemplating for a few weeks now and the Chaplain at PWOC today mentioned something that was interesting. He said that some people are just waiting to die to go to heaven. They're not living the life God gave them. To me this sounds crazy but I remember that there are days when I get caught up in what is to come (whether it's the adoption or a move, etc.) that I forget to live in the moment and appreciate all that God has provided in this day right now! So NO! I won't live in the Waiting Place. I'm waiting but I'm also LIVING!**
**I may need this reminder from time to time....
Wednesday (yesterday) was 2 months HSTK! Our agency said 4-8 months. Recently I've heard 6-8 months. I can't bring myself to think 8, but I'm trying to let go until January and just enjoy the fall. So excited for the kids as they enjoy the beginning of the school year. I can't wait to go apple picking! Lots to look forward to and to enjoy each day.
oh, christy, don't i know about waiting...it's often the pits, but realizations like this one that you wrote about and choices to free yourself from the burden of waiting definitely makes it better...:)
ReplyDeleteLiving while waiting was something I struggled with during both our adoptions...I didn't always manage it w/very much grace.
ReplyDeleteI hope your phone rings sooner than you think.
Love this post and love the approach to life you expressed here. Here's hoping phones start ringing soon for everyone :)
ReplyDeleteSometimes it is hard to to, but imagine the regrets you would have if you missed so much during these months! Have a wonderful fall!
ReplyDeleteYou said it right."The most important thing is living while you wait". You have a great attitude and I hope your phone rings soon!
ReplyDeleteI hear ya. This wait is hard. Really hard. I am trying to make memories with my family while we wait, but it is getting rough living in the present, trying to not wish time away so my referral will come. Hope both our phones ring soon.
ReplyDeleteVery well put Christy. You have the right attitude. It may be hard at times to stick to it and know that it's ok - you're only human. I found it helpful (as corny as it sounds) to come up with projects or a hobbie while we waited. I actually decided to learn how to play the acoustic guitar. I took lessons for 2+ years (this started while we were in the the process of adopting from China) and just stopped before we left for Korea. It was a great distraction of sorts and a lot of fun. Best of luck and keep up the positive attitude :)
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