Friday, January 21, 2011

To tell or not to tell....

that's the question for a few things right now. But one is whether or not to tell our kids. We're leaning more in the "let's do it" direction so I was wondering - any fun ideas of how to tell a 4 and 7 year old that they're getting a little sibling?!? The adoption part is definitely going to be an ongoing conversation but hoping for a fun way to initially tell them. :)

I've ordered our first children's book on adoption and I'm sure there will be many more to follow (there are several in my cart on amazon right now). ;)

The other to tell or not to tell is about our referral (NO we don't have one). I'm hesitant to tell too many people that we have one before seeing the info. I'm trying to decide who to tell until we've definitely decided to accept. I can't for the life of me imagine turning down a referral (my husband said the other day that this would kill me - he's only off by a bit) but I know that theoretically there could be circumstances that would cause that to happen and I would need support, not judgment. I know that only my husband and I can make that decision, just posting thoughts here.

I hope everyone has a great weekend!!! :) TGIF!


  1. Well lady, you better call me right after you call your husband when you get that call ;-)

    As far as telling the kids, hmm. Maybe get them big brother and big sister shirts?

  2. The shirts idea is so cute! A book is too! Or maybe something cute like a little baby doll left on the front porch with a note saying the real baby will be coming next year or something?? Hmm...I'm going to have to think on this one...

    Much love,
    Future Mama

  3. Oh I love the big brother/sister shirts!!!

  4. We didn't tell anyone that we had a referral until after we talked with our doctor and had reviewed the medical information. However, some knew that the call had come because they witnessed our strange behavior (leaving the office right away or asking us if we had a referral and we couldn't say no). But usually, there was only a few days between getting the referral and hearing back from our doctor, so it wasn't long - it just felt like it!

    Good luck!