Happy New Year! I hope you all had a blessed holiday season! We are so excited to enter 2011 - the year we find out about and meet our baby (hopefully!!!). I also have to say that yesterday was a FANTASTIC day with lots of wonderful news and I'm so thankful and I praise God for all of that happy news! Sorry I can't share it - not mine to share! ;)
I've been thinking a lot about telling older kids that you're adopting. For those that don't know this, we haven't told B and E yet that we're adopting. We've taken many wonderful opportunities to talk about adoption in general with them. We've also discussed adding a sibling "one day" but we haven't gotten specific yet because adoption is a bumpy road and our children's concept of time is a bit lacking (especially E). The kids LOVE the idea of a younger sibling. B is starting to understand adoption a bit, and E is just starting to as well (her Cabbage Patch doll was a great instrument in discussing adoption with both of them).
B told me (in October) that the best birthday gift would be to have another sibling. Brian and I were planning on telling the kids for their birthdays (in December) that we were adopting. Our initial timeline was 4-6 months and even when it moved to 4-8 that didn't seem so bad (we were at the 5 month mark for their birthdays). In November we were told to expect 12 months (I'm still thinking that our agency is a bit pessimistic and giving very conservative time lines but I digress). That was enough for us to decide to wait on telling them. We realized that this was a blow to us and that we needed to wait for a bit. It's driving me crazy not telling them though. I told Brian that what I want for my birthday is to tell the kids. My birthday is in March and we'll be at about the 8 1/2 month mark since HSTK. I know that we have to evaluate if this is best for our family when it gets closer but we're thinking about it. We're really hoping we'll have a referral by then and won't have to make this decision.
So my question to those of you with older kids, whether through birth or adoption, is this: How did you go about telling your older child(ren) that you're adopting? When did you do it? How did they deal with the wait?
Don't forget to check out the giveaways that I posted about in yesterday's post. Also check out the wonderful post Tracy wrote today about the support they're receiving - makes me excited to see everyone rally around them! Continued prayers to bring Emi Faith Home!!